"Take Back Time for Yourself"
by Marcia Ramsland, "The Organizing Pro
Elaine ushered me into her office and closed the door. She began talking
as soon as I sat down. "I used to be so organized. I had a clear desk, I
returned phone calls and emails the same day, and I delivered projects
on time. Last year at work I won all the top performance awards.
"But now I've been promoted and I feel like my life is out of control. I
can't fall asleep at night because of all the unfinished tasks. I'm also
in conflict over how to balance work and my personal life.
"I've been out every night this week and my house is a mess and the
dishes are piled high on the kitchen counters. I haven't put away
laundry in weeks so I'm ironing clean wrinkled blouses every morning
before work. Where do I begin to get control?"
Achiever Burn Out
Elaine was suffering from 'calendar overload,' often a symptom of being
a high achiever, an active volunteer, and a person struggling to keep
home and work in harmony.
I did the same thing with Elaine that I do with many of my clients. I
started with her calendar.
Say "No" When Things are Out of Control
"Elaine, my #1 Time principle is 'Say 'no' when things are out of
control.' That's where you are now. You need to schedule time to catch
up at home and get the basics like your kitchen and laundry back
together. That will take you about four hours, but will immediately save
30 minutes each morning. Can you do that this evening?"
Elaine agreed but was doubtful. "But how will that help my work
performance?"
"Personal order is a good basis for professional excellence. Try it and
you'll see that it's true: When you work orderly, you think in an
orderly way. . . all day. And that's a great way to live."
Next Step to Get Your Life in Order
Elaine agreed to do that and then examined her calendar. She counted the
number of nights out per week. "Oh, my. For the past ten days I have
been out every night, and I have six more to go. Do you think that's too
much?"
Then she laughed before I could reply. "I get it. If I give my time away
to other people, then I have no time left for myself. I want—no, I
NEED—to take back time for myself and right now!
I'm going to call and postpone tonight's dinner with a girlfriend and
catch up on my personal life."
Marcia, has your personal life suffered because you are too busy at work
or other activities? Life gets complicated when you run out of time for
yourself. But if you know your calendar is the basis for control, you
can find your way back to fix it any time you need to. And once you take
the time to get your personal life in order at home, everything else
starts to get easier. |
